Wait a year before you indulge in a romantic partner. You hear that a lot from AA, your sponsor and where you were in recovery. Focusing on your sobriety is so important. You don’t want to add more responsibilities or stress to your life, especially within the first year of sobriety. You’re already going through challenges in recovery. Take life day by day, and after a full year of recovery, you can look around! Looking around, where, though? Is okay to look around in your AA meeting? Is dating in AA okay to do?
There’s no right or wrong answer. There are pros and cons to each, though. Because sure, you can date someone in your group, but if things don’t work out in the end, it could interfere with your recovery.
The bottom line is how you feel in your recovery. Do you want to add the challenge of dating someone in your AA meeting? Is that partner worth the risks? How long ago did you two meet in the meeting? You can weigh the pros and cons, but in the end, it’s totally your decision. If you’re feeling really secure in your sobriety, it’s been over a year and you’re ready to jump on the love wagon, go for it. But make completely sure you are comfortable in recovery. The last time you had a sexual partner could have been in your addition. Have you done this sober before?
Being drunk and in love, compared to being sober and in love are very different. And it can be scary and unexpected. But remember to take it day by day. If it’s not worth disrupting your sobriety, that’s okay. If you’re not ready for a partner yet, that’s okay. Don’t feel pressured to have a partner. Your wants, needs, and sobriety are far more important than someone else’s. You do what’s best for you!